Jennifer Lopez’s 2002 movie “Enough” is based on a novel entitled “Black and Blue,” which tackles the life of an abused wife who learned to fight back and break free from her abusive husband. The movie is an action thriller with people on the edge of their seats. But, more importantly, it tackles a very important but still a seemingly taboo topic of domestic violence.
Like a disease, no one is immune to domestic violence. Parents can physically or verbally abuse their own children or vice-versa. Wives, like in the movie, can also suffer abuse from their husbands. It can also be the other way around. Having family lawyers here in Colorado Springs to help you get out of such a situation is a must.
There are many legal ways to protect you and your family from such incidents from happening again. However, before a legal approach is made, one must understand and subsequently acknowledge that one is indeed in an abusive relationship and that action must be taken.
How domestic abuse is considered a cycle
Domestic violence is a cycle. Getting slapped in the face today, receiving an apology a few days after, and feeling normal and loved the following weeks, only to be hit again one day, is a common cycle. Most victims often do not realize the severity of the situation in hopes that their loved ones will change their ways. Unfortunately, it is not as easy as that.
Being physically hit, or verbally demeaned to the point where your self-confidence is reduced to almost nothing is not normal. People who are victims of domestic abuse often find the need to hide and deny such a reality.
They act like everything is normal, making family and friends oblivious to the unfortunate reality. Being a victim is not something to be ashamed of. If you or anyone you know suffers from one, help should be sought immediately.
How to get out of it
It is difficult to get out of an abusive relationship alone. But this does not mean it is impossible. Seeking help is one of the easiest ways to break free from the cycle. However, the desire to stop the cycle should start within yourself.
Acknowledging that your loved one is not who you think they are and that what they do to you is not normal is often a huge and hard step. But it is a start. Once you have the right mindset, it will be easier for you to find ways to get out of your loved ones’ grasp and find people who can help you.
They can be in the form of friends, family, institutions dedicated to saving the abused, religious organizations, or the government. The bottom line is, being abused is not normal, nor is it okay. But there is nothing to be ashamed of.
Rising against your abuser, whether through equipping yourself with physical skills like Jennifer Lopez in the movie, or finding the right legal help and institutions to help you heal and protect you, is not a walk in the park. But it is something that many people have done and is something you can do too.
